Develop Transforming and Effective Communication
Location: Middlebury, Vermont, US
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|Do you want to make your life a bit more wonderful? Wonder why it is not as wonderful as you might like?
Most of us have been educated from birth to compete, judge, demand, and diagnose — to think and communicate in terms of what is “right“ and “wrong“ with people. We express our feelings in terms of what another person has “done to us,” instead of taking responsibility for our feelings, independent of another person.
We struggle to understand our own needs in the moment, or to effectively ask for what we want without using unhealthy demands, threats, or coercion. All of us struggle to some extent with not acting from our best selves.
All of us are cultured to some extent to function in our society this way, and when we come to live in community together, we find that despite our very best intentions and highest ideals, our interactions are not reflective of those intentions or ideals. For most of us this is simply unacceptable, and we either find ourselves withdrawing from community or struggling to find a better way.
While the 4-Part NVC Process provides a very effective framework to transform the way we communicate, there is no way that focusing simply on the words you use will yield anything other than a stilted and inauthentic technique – another technique to master.
The real secret is that the universal effectiveness of NVC lies in a practice that involves shifting the intention you bring to the interaction — not on a rigid technique. Pan Vera has been describes as a master in leading people through the steps which help each individual feel how this works in reality and discovering how to express it in their own “voice”.
Compassionate Communication begins with a recognition of and welcoming of our own blaming and judging, not wallowing in it, but applying self-empathy as a way of identifying true feelings which underlie the triggers we encounter from others. From there the following steps unfold organically.
While simple, this shift in emphasis has a profound impact.
Even if only one party engages in NVC, they can create an environment of emotional safety — whether the interaction is taking place in the home, work. With this foundation of emotional safety which starts with one's own self, tension and conflict can be defused, feelings and experiences can be expressed without blame, emotional pain and anger can find relief, and ultimately mutually satisfying outcomes can be achieved.
Call Pan at 802-659-0144 for more information.
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|Something to write on, like a clip board or pad. You might also want to bring your journal and consider bringing a lunch. |
There are venues for lunch withing a ten minute drive.
A handbook will be provided. Please bring a pen.
If you wish to register more than one person please complete a separate registration for each person. You may make one payment under one person's name for all the members that you register. When you register the additional members covered by the initial payment, enter $0.00 as the payment amount for each of those members. Please put your name in the "comment field" when you register each of those other members so we will know who paid for them.
You will be able to select your donation amount on the next page. The requested donation is between $45.00 and $160.00.